Feeling lonely on Valentines Day this year? Well, same. However, this year will not be like the rest. Instead of reporting couples Instagram posts, stalking our exes, and binge eating everything in sight, we are going to get the fuck up and show ourselves some love.
The truth is, no matter how much you say you don’t care or that Valentines Day is just a capitalistic scam, no one is buying your defensive act. This Valentines Day I am showing myself, and my friends some well needed love. Hopefully you will do the same! Come join me in learning some tips for baring through this day and the benefits that come with each.
- Buy Yourself Flowers
Maybe it’s just me but I am a sucker for the array of colors and beauty which come with a fresh bouquet, and so are many of my friends. Many argue that they are expensive and just die, but so do many things in this world. This week, I am buying myself and my friends flowers. It is a simple act, small, and seemingly pointless, but to me (and what can be to you) it is this act that brings joy to my day. Smelling it’s sweet zing or gazing at its effortless beauty, me smile, reminding me that it is not that being alone today is not that deep and I am grateful for the people I do have.
- Have a Self-Care Night
Having a self-care night is just another way to show yourself some love this Valentine's Day. Take the night to pamper yourself, sometimes the simplest levels of self-care can boost our confidence tremendously. I recommend putting on your comfiest pjs, putting on a face mask, painting your nails, and munching on your favorite snacks while you watch an old comfort movie. Have a relaxing night in where you can take a second to forget about all worldly pressures. You would do it with a lover, so do it with yourself.
Take this with caution though, sometimes it can be hard when you’re in your room alone to stay off the spiraling train. If you find yourself sobbing over a romcom, change the movie to something funny. If you find yourself scrolling on Instagram’, comparing your night to theirs, then turn off your phone. Have discipline in what you do with your night in, because when done right I promise you will wake up the next day fresher than ever.
- Take Yourself on a Date
This suggestion is very similar to the last, but instead of staying in, it's time to go out. Perhaps this Valentine’s Day you wanted to go out to dinner, go on a picnic, or paint pottery with a special someone. If so, I must ask, what is stopping you? Go out and do it with yourself. There is nothing more empowering than going on a date with yourself, leading towards boosted confidence and self-love. Something I love to say is that “the best way to love someone else is by loving yourself first,” take this to heart and begin taking yourself out in the same way you would want someone to. No, you don’t look dumb or lonely, if anything you look strong. Plus, it is always a bonus to be able to still get those cute photos for social media, or just to romanticize your life.
- Have a Galentine's
Maybe spending the night alone is simply too much, too soon for you. If that is the case for you, it is okay, but there is still no reason you cannot have some fun on this love-singing night. I can almost guarantee you that someone you know is feeling the same way you are and would love to get together. There is no greater love than the platonic care between friends, and what better excuse to get together with those you love and throw a party. Whether it is a small, intimate gathering or rowdy house part, what better way to embrace the lovely day than surrounded by your gals, in a gorgeous Galentine's party.
These Galentine's parties are my favorite reason to dress up in red and pink outfits, bake for my friends, and spend the night engaged in endless laughter. There is an endless number of ways to do it, but here are some of my favorite party ideas:
- Homemade heart-shaped pizzas
- Movie and Pajamas Night
- “Dress as your type” night
- Painting candles
- Flower Arranging
- Ask Your Friends Out
Just because you aren’t in a relationship doesn’t mean the world needs to know this. Grab another one of your single friends – man or woman – and ask them on a formal date. Dress up, go out, and scam the world into thinking you’re in love with your best buddy. Spend the night enthralled in the (fake) romance that pulls between the two of you. Post about this fake significant other or fake a proposal for some free food, tricking the world into thinking you too are cuffed this lovebug season. I promise this will be an adventure you will never forget, you’ll gain memories to hold dear, and you and this friend will likely get even closer.
- Distract Yourself.
At the end of the day, one common factor strings all of these together – distraction. Distracting yourself from the truth is not always the healthiest ways to process or deal with something in your life, but here I would argue that it is more than acceptable, even encouraged. The previous five examples are only a few of the things you can do to help get through this day. Whatever you choose, whether it be one of these, locking yourself in a library, or hitting the gym for the day, just make sure it keeps your mind out of the self-pity cycle. The day will pass sooner than you know, especially if you bury your mind and stay busy. Once it inevitably does your healing process and self-improvement journey will continue like normal.
Remember, Valentine's Day is just another day, and you are more loved than you will ever truly know. Lean on your friends and family, and know you are never alone. I am here for all my lonely ladies (and gentleman), and my mailbox is always open. If no one else tells you this February 14th: Happy Valentines Day! 🤍
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